We all have a lot of questions about sex and sex education that we wish could be truthfully answered in private. From the virgin girl or boy preparing for your first encounter and looking forward to orgasm, to the experts, here is your guide to getting to cloud 9 safely.
How To Have Sex
Okay, you are of legal age and want to experience your first encounter. Next head over to Pornhub and it’s likes to learn how it is done, right? Wrong!
Good sex starts from the mind, experience and experts say one of the best ways to have the strongest orgasm is when doing it with someone you love. Though another side says the best could be gotten from eating the forbidden fruit – you know, someone you are not supposed to do it with (disclaimer for the consequences that follow).
Tips To Guide You On Having The Best Sex
Communication is key. From understanding the level of intimacy between you and your partner, to knowing what they want, how they want it, and how much they want it. With cases of after-sex remorse and accusations of rape and sexual assault, consent must be gotten, and you must never assume he/she was in the mood.
Foreplay! Foreplay!! Foreplay!!!
This is where men feel they have an edge over women. While a man can go from zero to 100 in an instant, most women need time and effort to build up, and please, disregard porn videos that suggest some can get in the mood just by sucking a man’s penis.
A mix of words, kissing, touching, licking and patience does the trick – different strokes for different folks.
The Act
Alright, the mood is all set, but please don’t go straight into it like kpakpakpa! You sure have some manners and will be most welcome if you knock on the coochie and start slow. As the vaggy walls relax and tender, you can fire on.
Another bit of advice – constant change of positions is like applying the brakes in an F1 race. While your expertise and boldness no doubt are proven in those hot sex styles, they tend to bring down the tempo a bit.
Post Rumble
After hitting, it’s best to have some post-sex talks where you can learn what’s best and what’s rather. It also helps your partner feel secure and paves the way for a better rematch. However, this should not always be done else it loses its essence.
What is Oral Sex? How’s Best To Give And Receive
Oral sex is simply when you use your mouth to pleasure the genitals of your partner. A man performs oral sex when he uses his lips and tongue to suck and lick a woman’s vagina (vulva and clitoris). The official name is cunnilingus and the act of going down on a woman is also referred to as giving head.
A woman performs oral sex on a man when she puts his penis in her mouth and wobbles up and down while sucking. The act of going down on a man is called fellatio or giving head too.
The best way to give oral sex is to focus on the spots that give your partner the maximum pleasure. You can get this information by observing how he/she reacts or simply by asking.
Ensuring your receiver is comfortable and relaxed before going down is the foreplay in oral sex.
The extreme gagging, choking, slapping, spitting, and whatnot in porn doesn’t translate to real pleasure in real life.
The guide above applies when preparing to receive oral sex. A neatly shaved private region that smells nice appeals to the senses.
How To Last Longer During Sex
It’s not a marathon, you don’t need to last that long to make a woman cum. Most men last between 3 to 7 minutes on bed and the average time is 5 minutes. So unless you are trying to prove a point, or in an audition for Pornhup, your timing is perfect. However, if you need to last longer, wankers say getting off by yourself before the real deal does the trick. Now that brings us to the dangers of masturbation.
Is Masturbation Good Or Bad?
Whether you have no girlfriend or are in a long-distance relationship and have resorted to falling in love with your hands or getting off with sex toys, here are some of the risks associated with constant masturbation.
Erectile dysfunction for men: Your dopamine levels are so raised by what you see and hear on porn videos while jerking off that a woman’s naked body or touch in reality does not arouse or stimulate your enough. This can lead to poor erection.
Fun Fact: Just as constant ejaculation from sex, males who masturbate always tend to give out a lower amount of semen. So if your woman loves that load, abstinence is key.
Broken relationships: Just as it causes erectile dysfunction for men, those massive-sized dildos used by women are a far cry from reality. When your boyfriend/husband is unable to satisfy you, you might look outside when the problem is from within.
Mental health problems: Addiction to masturbation is linked with loss of focus and other mental issues.
Quick Ejaculation: You just want to get off and before you know it, your body learns the routine.
Fatigue and stress: Every man knows that ejaculation takes a whole lot of energy.
Lower Urge To Have Real Sex: Just as the eyes of many men “open” and they lose interest after sex, you also lose interest in opportunities with a mate after masturbation.
Though masturbation helps to calm the head and keep faithful, it seems the problems associated with it far outweigh the benefits, unless it’s done intermittently.
Recently, studies have said that constant ejaculation (via sex or masturbation) reduces the risk of prostate cancer in men. So that’s another point for the yays.
What Causes Pain During Sex In Women
Most times, women feel pain during sex due to vagina dryness. This is where foreplay again comes in handy. Lubes are a sure way to get over this. Other reasons behind pains during sex for females could be as a result of hormonal changes, menopause, and infections.
Why Am I Bleeding During/After Sex (Virgin Or Not)
Most first-timers are concerned about how much they will bleed when they are deflowered. Bleeding that occurs as a result of the hymen getting torn during the first time of having sex usually appears as a light spotting to light bleeding that might end within 24 hours or a few days.
Most virgin women might feel pain the first time.
Other bleeding that occurs during or after sex could be due to vaginal dryness, reproductive issues, or infections. Generally, it is not normal to bleed during or after sex, and it is best to seek medical advice.
Heads up; ensure you are not on your period, you don’t want your man’s dipstick coming out bloody without his consent.
I had Sex On My Period Can I Still Get Pregnant
While the chances of getting pregnant during menstruation are very low, it is still possible because ovulation can occur during your monthly flow. Having period sex might not be comfortable for everyone and poses a higher risk of contracting STDs. Some religions believe it has some spiritual implications and is bad.
Is Light Spotting After Sex A Sign Of Pregnancy?
Light spotting or light bleeding usually occurs due to high friction during sex as a result of vaginal dryness or hormonal changes. It could happen during the early stage of pregnancy and is not a result of rough sex or long penis. It is due to the cervix becoming richer in blood and sensitive due to hormonal changes. However, it is best to consult a doctor for further concerns.
How Long To Wait For Sex After Yeast Infection Treatment
Infections not only bring about discomfort but also stop one’s freedom to get laid, and you might be wondering how long you should wait before getting under the sheets after treatment for yeast.
Yeast infection is not an STD, but it can be transmitted through sex – whether vagina or oral. But like every sexually transmitted disease (STD), It is best to wait throughout the duration of the treatment and until all the symptoms of infection have cleared before having sex – at least the unprotected one.
Having unprotected sex while treating sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and STDs only leads to more infections and re-infections, and no type of protection, including the condom, is 100% safe.
